The stories we tell ourselves
We’ve all been there.
Something didn’t go the way we wanted. A relationship fell apart. A job slipped through our fingers. We missed the mark on a goal, or maybe even messed up our taxes.
But the real story isn’t in what happened. It’s in what we tell ourselves afterward.
The way we speak to ourselves in those moments shapes our happiness, self-worth, and belief in who we are.
Before I met my husband, I was in a relationship that was… not healthy.
We met online and chatted for a few days before meeting in person. I remember packing for a Women’s Fitness Summit, texting him with that excited, butterflies-in-your-stomach feeling. He had a steady 9-to-5 job, was into fitness, and played rugby—a sport I loved from my time at Dartmouth. It felt like we clicked.
The more time we spent together, the more I wanted to be with him. But there were signs—little red flags I tried to ignore. He drank more than I was comfortable with. Just two weeks in, my journal showed my growing concern:
"I wanted to talk to him about the drinking last night, but I didn’t know how to bring it up."
"I don’t know what to say."
"I don’t want to hurt his feelings."
"I don’t want him to think badly of me."
And you know what happened?
Nothing.
I stayed with him for three more months.
I told myself stories to justify staying:
"Maybe I can change him."
"If I love him enough, it will be enough."
It wasn’t.
It took accusations, disrespect toward my family, and watching him be a wallflower at my friend’s wedding for me to finally say:
ENOUGH IS ENOUGH.
Breaking up with him hurt. He called to yell at me, told me how terrible I was, then showed up weeks later insisting on giving me a Christmas gift… followed by another call, listing everything he thought was wrong with my parents.
And yet, there I was, missing him—or rather, missing the idea of who he could have been.
I told myself: "Maybe I didn’t try hard enough. Maybe I could’ve helped him."
But here’s the truth:
None of that was real. I couldn’t change him. The only person I could change was me.
And that change didn’t take years. It happened when I decided to stop believing the wrong story.
This is what I help people do. I help them rewrite the narratives that keep them stuck. To see their own strength. To believe in themselves again. To stop waiting for someone else to complete them and realize they were the star of their story all along.
When you decide that you are the star of the show, the light shines from within. It’s so bright that people can’t help but be drawn to it.
Self-belief is the greatest superpower.
So, what story are you telling yourself today? And is it the one you want to keep?
If you’re ready to rewrite your story and step into your power, let’s talk. I’m offering a free call to help you uncover the narratives holding you back and guide you toward the life you deserve.
Click here to schedule your free call and take the first step toward the transformation you’ve been waiting for. Your story isn’t over—it’s just beginning.
